the Truth of our Sisterhood
(what makes it work)
the secret handshake.
Until fairly recently, I'd never shared my story of The Mother with anyone who hadn't experienced it themselves—not my lifelong friends, not my family or even the private clients that came to work with me. I just conveniently left that part out, mostly because I felt wary of what might happen if I told anyone.
Truth be told, the idea of sharing it still scares me sometimes—because, like you, I'm a Woman and I've lived out a lot of the same kinds of things that you have.
Things that make it feel risky or even impossible to say or do what's needed because you know, once again, you won't be heard. Even worse, that you'll be shut down, judged, or made out to be too much........or in my case, made out to be just plain crazy.
Give our world, it could happen. Pretty easily, in fact.
But when I settle into our conversation—just you and me—everything starts to calm down.
See, there is an ancient, sacred bond that exists between us—one of Sisterhood—even though we don’t know each other yet. Contained within that bond are so many beautiful things, a few which we will discuss when we meet.
One of those things is a particularly gorgeous thread of unspoken Truth—Women’s Truth. It’s the kind of thing that can only be had among Women because it cannot be wholly received and acknowledged except by those who KNOW and feel it deep in their bones.....it's our own little secret handshake of sorts.
When I speak with you of depth and richness of Life—that you came here for something more than what you’re experiencing, that Women should not just be treated with respect but deeply supported, that what's happening in the world MUST come into healing because this is our children’s inheritance—somewhere within you is the heartfelt yearning for it all before I ever opened my laptop to speak.
But maybe we don't want to feel that yearning too personally or too deeply. Because so fast on its heels is also the lead-in-your-stomach feeling that these desires—due to the sheer impossibility of them—will heartbreakingly, not come to pass in our lifetime. As for those same desires in our personal lives—maybe not all the way like we secretly wish for, either. So instead, we try somehow to have a positive mindset and be grateful for what we do have.
But maybe, just maybe, there is a way that the harsh division and violence in our world become a tale-of-once-was in our history books, that your people don't just manage to just survive, but flourish. And perhaps your life actually becomes the sweeping Beauty that you secretly pine for, dripping with Love met and joyously returned, an undeniable statement of the sheer poetry of you and what you create in this life.
This pathway is the gift, lovingly left here by The Mother. It is Her response to those precious, secreted-away desires that permeate the air with each beat of your heart. She has held every single one of our desires in Her Heart as well, for they are what She dreams for this world, too. And true to Her form, the pathway that she planted here nearly 30 years ago is a way that makes the impossible, possible.
This is what I'm here to share with you:
How together, we also, can make the impossible, possible.
agreement.
As Women living here in the Modern World, we are each holed away in our private, separate residences, desiring, praying, longing for more beauty and wholeness in our lives and world.
We yearn to be SEEN—truly & deeply seen—
without having to constantly remind people of,
defend or prove our value, over and over.
Let us be RECOGNIZED for the great Love, Intelligence & Beauty that we are.
We long to be HEARD
without having to convince, debate, prove,
cajole, argue, nag, bargain, beg or plead.
Let us be fully received because we do, in fact, COUNT.
We pine for BELONGING
to be in union with something deeply moving & Life-giving,
and perhaps powerful enough to actually help our world.
Let us be MET in the truth we carry in our hearts.
And in all this, we pray for SUPPORT
because the Life we take care of is THAT precious.
Let it just be easier.
No matter how alone, misunderstood and wanting we might feel, together as Women, as Sisters, we already possess the key to all these things we so deeply desire (and oh, so much more).
Regardless of race, creed, or social standing, there is no need to explain, justify or defend why these things are true and important. We just know. See, as Women, we innately know what's needed for Life to thrive.
We instinctively feel dysfunction in our relationships, at work and in our families. We magically know when our children need more than what they're getting at school emotionally. We intuitively know when the leadership at work is ruining the culture (and productivity to boot).
We know that the world is interconnected, so that the war that doesn't affect us directly, affects us. We know that inclusion, kindness, people-centeredness is the way. We know, worry over and act on these things every single day—even though to do so doesn't buy us money, power or importance in the world.
We are One with each other in our Hearts for we each hold the same Gossamer Pearl: the dream of well-being for our lives, for our loved ones and for our wider world.
We agree.
And it's that deep, ironclad agreement and understanding of each other that creates tremendous possibility. To make the conscious choice to hold hands gives us a strength that none of us individually could possibly ever create on our own. It provides for us a safety-in-numbers, a safety-in-likeness to even stand up in the strong currents of the world when needed for your child, for your work-in-the-world, or for whatever Life-giving goodness you are trying to nurture.
Our agreement also gives us the opportunity to create an immediate safety—a womb where we can heal—trading in isolation, invisibility and past hardship in exchange for your White Pearl.
It makes it actually possible to provide each other the safety & support we pray for NOW—not having to wait for the world to finally "get it" (and then change) or for someone to come save the day—because that, I'm afraid, will come far too late.
We can so simply and easily help each other to do the things that feel hard, scary or even impossible........up to and including claiming your Divine aspect and hold on to it when we go for more or better out in the world. Or—most importantly—when we have to enter the rough waters in our lives.
We know it's true. That's why our trusted friendships with each other are so dear.
If only we could find the time. Or each other.
a little perspective
Lots of Women see something like this and immediately think of all the other things she's got on her plate and earmarks it for later. It seems selfish to focus on yourself and have fun with your friends when there's so much going on.
I get it. I do. When thinking about stepping away for a weekend, or even for just a few hours each month, we begin to feel that all the hard work you've put in will unravel in your absence, causing you to groan at the thought of putting it all back in place. Again.
This is because you're the one with your eye on things that no one else is 100% tending. True for nearly all of us.
On top of all the regular stuff (your job, the meals, laundry, kids stuff and etc), the Modern World, such as it is, creates a lot of gaps for everyone.
I'm not just talking about the big stuff like political upheaval, a worldwide pandemic, or war (etc), but also in the everyday: the lack of emotional support at work (or just about anywhere, actually). There is also the general atmosphere of meaninglessness, lack of direction (and ensuing anxiety), not to mention all the unfairness & questionable behavior that goes on around us....the list goes on and on.
And then there's how to help your kids deal with it all in a way that doesn't make them shrink from life before they've even left the nest.
Instinctively, you are trying to bridge these gaps for the people you love. The issue is that those gaps are everywhere. That's why we're so overextended. And depleted. Because you gotta take it out of somewhere.
We all have the feeling that we can't do enough.
We wouldn't expect a cherry tree to keep producing Life-giving fruit when it's been uprooted from the soil, no longer deeply connected with its Life-giving source, Mother Earth. It just doesn't work that way.
And yet, because we're so busy, this is what we often do: give, give, give without first deeply connecting with our Life-giving source to receive what we need to keep going and doing it well.
That feeling of care and responsibility to all that we Love is Divine Truth—that's why we feel so guilty about taking time for ourselves when there is so much going on.
It's only that, like your toaster (or that cherry tree), plugging into your power source might make things a lot easier to get the job done, that's all.
This is the ultimate in Self-Care. Because as we know all too well, the benefits of a weekend away or a monthly massage fades far too quickly once regular life kicks in.
To integrate with your Divine expression—your White Pearl—is to join with that which is infinite and Life-sustaining. But perhaps even more to the point, it is to be in union with that which shows us the highest, most Life-giving path forward for everyone involved. Including you.
Because we're not just interconnected. We are all ONE.
And if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy
-Ron Hall
(also a Divine truth, btw)
to embody or not to embody.
Look, it goes without saying that if there was a way to bridge all these gaps with what we currently have, we would have just taken care of it already—that's just what Women do.
So we get busy, combing over YouTube for an answer, consulting our friends, experts, research studies and books. But with so much information and diverse (often opposing) opinions at our fingertips, just getting to our own inner clarity can be a murky, time consuming journey.
Meanwhile, the world keeps spinning: your marriage continues to roll in ways that maybe worked before (but perhaps not as much anymore), your kids keep having to negotiate stuff we couldn't even imagine when we were kids (and at younger and younger ages to boot), and you are left to worry and figure out how to make it all work.
Deep down, there's a feeling of coming up short—no matter how much you do—because we all instinctively KNOW what it needs to be for things to flourish.
But if you don't receive what's required to meet and match this world, how could anyone be expected to succeed? It's not just you. We all feel this. That's why everyone's so busy on social media trying to prove it to the rest of the world.
Without your Divine aspect, the undeniable depth and Beauty that you crave becomes one of those things we think that only the most blessed or luckiest among us get. I'm not saying it's ungettable, because some of us have indeed gotten there. Just not enough of us. And not nearly as quickly as we should given that your White Pearl is your birthright.
Claiming and owning your Divine aspect opens doors and makes things possible that otherwise wouldn't be. Just like claiming a financial inheritance, access to your Divine aspect just makes things so much easier than trying to just 'survive' the rough spots or merely circle in a holding pattern while you wait for a sign so you know what you're meant to do.
That this fell into your lap.....THIS is the sign.
When the Divine Feminine gets involved, it's amazing how quickly and how insanely beautifully those impossible gaps close and life takes on the kind of sweeping gorgeousness that up to now, we really only experience by watching Oscar-winning movies or reading deeply moving novels.
But then again, we're talking about the Divine, after all. I mean, isn't this why we pray to the Heavens for help....for the way through impossible situations? And the Modern World isn't shy about serving those up these days.
So why be shy about claiming your White Pearl?
That's what it's there for, after all.
multiply the loaves and the fishes.
Completion on this level cannot be supported by a flimsy Facebook Group or even live coaching calls with an expert, a blueprint for 'success' and a 'you got this, girl'.
Please.
Our world is complex. The stuff we have to negotiate is complex and intertwined. Our issues are so deeply personal and so important. These forms of one-size-fits-all mass support are simply not enough for what we're negotiating in today's world.
It just doesn't make sense that an individual Woman with not-even-close-to-enough support goes up against the massive tides of this world by herself—she's already got too many things on her plate as it is.
As well, it's not working very well for most of us—worried, stressed, and overworked as we are. And from my own experience.....it's mighty lonely and frankly, not very beautiful.
There is so much talk online about 'being in service'.......out there. But the bottom line is that if you don't get everything you need....right HERE, neither will the people you serve, no matter how hard you work. Fed is better. For everyone.
Women MUST truly receive everything they need....and it has to be on the same order of magnitude as what the world is serving up, or it will be one long slog uphill, as we already know.
This is a Call to all of us who are able to reach in this way.
Let us first be In Service with each other, Sister to Sister.
Because who better to serve first than one who truly gets it, who will receive it with true gratitude, and who will multiply your contribution by making deep Beauty in her life with what you've given?
And who better to serve with than one who can actually recognize what you might need, as well.
It's an incredibly simple, powerful move in the direction of world healing....to truly support, nurture and blossom those who so deeply desire to make this world more beautiful through their lives, relationships, work and everything they touch.
Women helping Women in deep Sisterhood. It just makes sense.
the circle of co-Creation.
Even though I've been given everything (and I mean everything) from the unseen needed to bring this work forward, the truth is that without the support of several circles of Women helping Women, this body of work would have never seen the light of day, no matter that it was given by The-Mother-on-High—the Holy Spirit—Herself.
As Divine and powerful as it is, it had to be received in the loving arms of several beautiful Women, each laying their unique blessings as it passed from the Divine and into the challenging nature of our world. This was done so it could be delivered to you, whole and intact—perfect—for it is a reflection of what you are: Divine Perfection.
This is what it takes to birth the Divine into form: all of us midwives, lending something of our very Being to each other so that we, too, might know ourselves as Whole and Perfect.....to know with absolute certainty that we, too, are Divine.
Because the unseen Mother in the heavens has got no laptop from which to speak sweet words of comfort, no internet to make her Beauty & encompassing Love known in every domicile, no physical hands with which to heal the soreness of each damaged heart on this earth. But we do.
See, we are not just in deep Sisterhood with each other, but we are also in Sisterhood and co-Creation with the pure consciousness of the Divine Feminine. We are, in fact, One with that consciousness. And that's the literal point of the White Pearl City Circles:
To help each other embody the Divine Feminine—to simply BE that—in our lives, here in the muck and mire of life on earth.
Because what we all want is for our lives to thrive. It doesn't really matter our differences in form, religion or politics, does it?
Underneath it all, you and me and her and Her (the unseen Mother in the heavens), we are One Heart. And in that, we can only ever help one another.
This is the truth of Sisterhood.
Won't you join us?
o
We are One
in our Sisterhood
No matter how foreign or different,
no matter the choices a Woman has made,
you are One with the Woman standing next to you.
Because you understand that if she chose it,
it was simply the highest possibility
she had.
Let's
change
that.
Sisters We Are.
Finally together in the same House.
o
We are One
in our Sisterhood
No matter how foreign or different,
no matter the choices a Woman
has made,
you are One with the
Woman standing next to you.
Because you understand
that if she chose it,
it was simply the
highest
possibility
she had.
Let's
change
that.
Sisters We Are.
Finally together in the same House.